Wed Magazine - July 2011

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WED MAGAZINE asks: Would you marry someone your parents disapprove of?

It is going to be quite difficult marrying someone my parents disapprove of, because my parents have the final say on my marriage. Moreover, it is against my Islamic religion to go against my parents’ wishes, so I cannot go against my parents, so long as it is within the Islamic principles. In a nut shell, my parents have that right to stop me from marrying whomever they disapprove of.

- Muhammed U. Sa’eed

@Bisi4real

I need my parents blessing so this will be a difficult decision but the reason behind their disapproval matters a lot in my decision.

Honestly, as a spur of the moment response, I think this is relative to each individual in question. How close you are to your parent? What sort of marriage relationship do your parents personally value/ share? How much of an influence do they have in your life? How mature are you as an individual? If you’re still a spring chicken, then go figure you can listen all you want, but in reality when you do love someone, you sacrifice a whole lot for them. In essence, my parents will have no choice but to approve because I will make them to, as it is important that my parents be a part of my family, so whether or not they approve is not the question, it is how much work I would need to put in to convince them otherwise. However, if there is a doubt in my spirit with prayers and my parents still insist, I must confess it would be very difficult to overlook my parents disapproval, as much as it would hurt, I would have to let him go!

If personally I am so sure that he is the one for me, I will marry him. This is because they may initially disapprove of him and later come to approve of him. However, I will just have to stand my ground and wait for them to approve before going ahead because it is important I get their blessings.

- Esther O. Omodanisi
If it is based on ethnicity or other things that really
has nothing to do with my girl’s character, I am not
listening. I will go ahead because we are the ones
that will live the rest of our lives together regard-
less of it all. But if I did not know she was a whore
before my parents informed me, then she is gone.
Never make a whore a housewife.

- Lolu Akintujoye
First, I have to find out on what bases are they
disapproving of her? Second, I will mirror their
objection (disapproval) in the light of the manual
handed down by the originator of marriage (GOD)
and lastly, I will disengage it if their objection is
consistent with the manual but if not I will go ahead
and marry her, as every man must leave his father,
mother and cleave to his wife and both shall
become one.