WED MAGAZINE asks:
Would you marry someone your parents disapprove of?
It is going to be quite difficult marrying someone my
parents disapprove of, because my parents have the
final say on my marriage. Moreover, it is against my
Islamic religion to go against my parents’ wishes, so
I cannot go against my parents, so long as it is within
the Islamic principles. In a nut shell, my parents have
that right to stop me from marrying whomever they
- Muhammed U. Sa’eed
I need my parents blessing so this will be
a difficult decision but the reason behind
their disapproval matters a lot in my
Honestly, as a spur of the moment response, I think this is relative
to each individual in question. How close you are to your parent?
What sort of marriage relationship do your parents personally value/
share? How much of an influence do they have in your life? How
mature are you as an individual? If you’re still a spring chicken, then
go figure you can listen all you want, but in reality when you do love
someone, you sacrifice a whole lot for them. In essence, my parents
will have no choice but to approve because I will make them to, as it
is important that my parents be a part of my family, so whether or
not they approve is not the question, it is how much work I would
need to put in to convince them otherwise. However, if there is a
doubt in my spirit with prayers and my parents still insist, I must
confess it would be very difficult to overlook my parents disapproval,
as much as it would hurt, I would have to let him go!
If personally I am so sure that he is the one for me,
I will marry him. This is because they may initially
disapprove of him and later come to approve of
him. However, I will just have to stand my ground
and wait for them to approve before going ahead
because it is important I get their blessings.
- Esther O. Omodanisi
If it is based on ethnicity or other things that really
has nothing to do with my girl’s character, I am not
listening. I will go ahead because we are the ones
that will live the rest of our lives together regard-
less of it all. But if I did not know she was a whore
before my parents informed me, then she is gone.
Never make a whore a housewife.
- Lolu Akintujoye
First, I have to find out on what bases are they
disapproving of her? Second, I will mirror their
objection (disapproval) in the light of the manual
handed down by the originator of marriage (GOD)
and lastly, I will disengage it if their objection is
consistent with the manual but if not I will go ahead
and marry her, as every man must leave his father,
mother and cleave to his wife and both shall
- Justus Tobechi
I will definitely go ahead and marry if the
reasons are not substantial. Parents tend
to want to control most times.